Communicating With Teachers About Behavioral Concerns
One concern I often hear from parents is that they are unsure how to inform their child’s teachers about any behavioral concerns they have. Often there is a fear of your child getting treated differently by their teachers and staff or worries that their children will be labeled. My biggest tip for navigating this situation is to use intentional wording and make their intentions or requests clear. Working with your child’s teacher to create a plan that works for everybody and feels comfortable for you and your child is the top priority. We are not just informing them about what is going on but we are creating a game plan for how to navigate those situations. As the parent you often have an idea of what works and what doesn’t work for your child. Let the teacher know how your child responds to certain situations and let them know what has worked for you in the past. State your expectations about being informed about these situations. Most importantly, be your child’s advocate but also their teachers teammate. Teachers are likely to respond well to cooperation and understanding. We hope that everything goes as planned and our child is getting undivided attention during difficult moments but often there are several other consideration during those moments. Show curiosity when navigating that with your child and their teacher and continue to evolve the plan throughout the school year, creating back up plans as needed.
Ultimately, if you come into the school year wanting to work with the teacher and focus on positive communication you will likely build a relationship with the teacher that improves your child’s experience while at school.
Additionally, when we are having problems with school staff and have identified a pattern it can be important to look at the schools fit for your child and family. Are they properly supported in this environment or do we need to advocate for additional supports or a change in schools, if possible for your family.
Reach out to your child’s therapist. Therapists can advocate for your child by communicating and brainstorming with you and school staff. Their knowledge and understanding of your child can assist in making informed decisions about your child’s care. Communicating with their therapist regularly to create plans and keep them informed about what has been going on sets your child up for the most success.
At Through the Woods Mental Health Services we are committed to working with you, your child, and their school to ensure they best support for each child.
